Wednesday, 4 October 2017

Why women are still under the servitude of men





 Presently in the world today, we have a lot of Activists who are protesting against gender inequality and are clamoring for gender equality throughout the whole world. Most cultural belief is that the female gender are not as worthy as the male gender. In fact some past civilizations, for example, the Greek’s (believed to be the greatest civilization) and the Roman’s civilization believed that the women are the source of evil of in the society and they are also used for sex and pleasure. Although, this has greatly reduce in recent times but it’s still quite unfortunate that the women are still indirectly under the servitude of men in the society.
 
Personally, I try to reflect and find out the reason why women or let me say ladies still find themselves under the servitude of men  in the society and what I was able to find out is that, most women or ladies don’t have the ideology of having full control over their life. Women are too dependent on men in so many ways beyond the reasonable limits. Most women believe that any responsibility which requires any extra effort must be taken up by men only, even despite this saying, “what a man can do, a woman can do better” which is now rampant in the world of ladies. There are a lot of debates about this saying but what amuse me most is that any lady who hears this will surely agree with you but only about 5% of them will be ready to prove it for you.
Ladies need to learn how to be independent. This is just a fact that must be told. You don’t have to be looking up to your husband, boyfriend or any man every time, learn how to stand on your own.

In addition to this, ladies are very poor in building their own career. What do I mean? Yes, I agree that now the female gender are now given the chance to be educated by sending them to school compare to the olden days but believe me, there is still a little of this ideology in their head that “all their education will still end up in their husband’s kitchen” and this keeps hindering them from trying to build a career on some professional courses. Although, this may not be happening in some civilized countries but this is still happening in so many countries around the world especially in Africa.
Indeed, this article will not be fair enough without mentioning this, “Marriage”. I can’t just point out the reason why ladies do feel that the best time for them to get married is between the ages of 20 to 25. It is believed that it’s very wrong to be a spinster at the age of 26 and above because they feel that at these ages, ladies begin to lose their beauty. To certain extent, I agree with this point but to me, I think the point is not tangible enough for ladies to jump into marriage so early at the expense of what they have planned to achieve or become in life. There are cases in which most female students gave up their aims and goals of studying some professional courses which will take them longer years before they finish their programs in school just because they want to get married before they clock 25. 

However, it’s a pity that most ladies don’t even seem to realize that most of their husbands still don’t appreciate them despite the fact that they got married to them when they are looking as beautiful as they can ever be in their life. According to statistics, 60 percent of marriages for couples between the ages of 20 and 25 end in divorce and those who wait to marry until they are over 25 years old are 24 percent less likely to get divorced..

For couples who are even younger, the prognosis becomes bleaker still.  In their article titled “Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the United States,” cited by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), M.D. Bramlett and W.D. Mosher found that nationally, 59% of marriages to women who were younger than 18 at the time of marriage will end in divorce within 15 years.  In other words, nearly two thirds of all marriages to teenaged women fail within two decades.
According to the CDC, in 2011, the divorce rates by age group and gender were:
  • 27.6% of women aged 19 or younger
  • 11.7% of men aged 19 or younger
  • 36.6% of women aged 20-24
  • 38.8% of men aged 20-24
But at 25, something dramatic happens.  Statistics show that the divorce rates plummet by nearly halffor both genders:
  • 16.4% of women aged 25-29 (compared with 36.6% for the average 24-year-old woman)
  • 22.3% of men aged 25-29 (compared with 38.8% for the average 24-year-old man)







Why is 25 the “Magic Number” for Successful Marriages?
We’ve established that once people hit 25 years old, the divorce rate seems to plummet because many experts chalk it up to lack of emotional experience, insufficient financial support, and hasty unions.
Jennifer Glass, sociology professor at the University of Texas at Austin, says, “It appears that the cessation of education, early marriage and early parenthood, you’re set up for relationship conflict, financial stress and dissolution.”  Glass’ theory ties neatly into Naomi Cahn’s assertion that the continuation of education and late marriage (and consequent late parenthood) is the driving forces behind marital success.  It’s a classic case of what goes up, must come down.
Some experts think that the older couples are at the time of their marriage, the more hobbies they’re likely to share in common.  Paul Amato, a sociologist at Pennsylvania State University, says, “Older marriages (30s versus 20s) were more cohesive in the sense that they did things together more often as a couple.”
Andrew Cherlin, a sociologist from Johns Hopkins University, supports Amato’s ideas.  Cherlin says, “People are more concerned with their own self-development than they used to be.  Therefore, people are postponing marriage until everything in their lives is working ‘in order.’  The order means after you’ve finished your education, perhaps after beginning your career… they’re postponing marriage until they think they’re ready for it.”
Perhaps the end of Cherlin’s statement is the most important: “until they think they’re ready for it” is a telling fragment.  It implies that couples who rush into marriage when they’re young — perhaps even fresh out of high school, with limited knowledge of their own hopes, dreams, and capabilities — simply lack the experiential tools to know whether or not they are “ready.”  They marry because their friends are getting married, because it’s what’s accepted by (or even expected in) the community, and whether or not they’re actually preparedfalls by the wayside.
Kay Moffett thinks this may be the root of the problem.  Moffett, author of Not Your Mother’s Divorce: A Practical Guide to Surviving the End of a Young Marriage, says, “I advise couples to wait until they’re in their late 20s to marry. This allows for a period of identity exploration and a time to figure one’s self out.  Most couples who plunge into wedlock early do so for the wrong reason.”



Conclusively, I hope that this article will help to encourage the women folks to contribute more to the society and should not limit their potentials beyond measure. Although, naturally men has more responsibilities in the society more than the women but this should not discourage the women from social participation.


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